'Learn to Discern'

'Learn to Discern'

In Acts chapter 6, the church faced a delicate situation. The Greek widows were not being cared for like the Hebrew widows. This situation needed special attention too since the unity of the church was at stake. Peter told the group to find leaders who could come up with a solution and organize a fair distribution of food and care. “Brothers and sisters, choose seven men from among you…” Acts 6:3  This begs the question of how the people would choose - discern - who the right leaders are.

The Holy Spirit guides discernment in the church, with our spouses, and in our families. Discernment is not fortune-telling or emotional instinct. It is the practiced ability, formed slowly through Scripture, prayer, and conversations with other Christians to recognize God’s voice and movement.

Several ‘don’ts’ must be named clearly.

First, do not treat discernment like a solo decision. Sometimes a person ends the discussion by saying, “God told me,” which functions like a trump card that shuts down conversation. This is often called the “God Card.” Instead of inviting testing and wisdom, it pressures others into silence. Dominance of personality does not equal discernment of the Spirit.

Second, do not expect clear guidance without steady Scripture reading and daily prayer. If we are not tuned into God regularly, it is hard to hear clearly when we really need to.

Third, do not search the Bible merely to confirm what you already want. Proof texting is not discernment. Finding verses to validate our opinions can make us both very confident and at the same time very wrong.

Fourth, do not confuse strong emotion with the Holy Spirit. Feelings matter, but they must be tested with humility and community. Scripture also shows the ‘dos’ of healthy discernment. Pray together so that seeking God becomes more important than winning an outcome. Give time and space for God to speak. He will always answer in His own time. Hold opinions with humility so spouses, parents, and leaders remain open to correction.

Finally, listen for confirmation through the gathered church and faithful family members, trusting that God speaks through His people.

When prayer, patience, humility, and shared listening guide decisions at church and at home, the Spirit will lead you into wisdom, unity, and peace.

Blessings,

Jonathan